Tuesday, September 29, 2009

The Qualities of Skillful Leadership by Jim Rohn

The Qualities of Skillful Leadership
by Jim Rohn

If you want to be a leader who attracts quality people, the key is to
becoming a person of quality yourself. Leadership is the ability to
attract someone to the gifts, skills, and opportunities you offer as an
owner, as a manager and as a parent. I call leadership the great
challenge of life.

What's important in leadership is refining your skills. All great leaders
keep working on themselves until they become effective. Here are
some specifics:

1) Learn to be strong but not rude. It is an extra step you must
take to become a powerful, capable leader with a wide range of reach.
Some people mistake rudeness for strength. It's not even a good
substitute.

2) Learn to be kind but not weak. We must not mistake kindness
for weakness. Kindness isn't weak. Kindness is a certain type of
strength. We must be kind enough to tell somebody the truth. We
must be kind enough and considerate enough to lay it on the line. We
must be kind enough to tell it like it is and not deal in delusion.

3) Learn to be bold but not a bully. It takes boldness to win the
day. To build your influence, you've got to walk in front of your group.
You've got to be willing to take the first arrow, tackle the first problem,
discover the first sign of trouble.

4) You've got to learn to be humble, but not timid. You can't get
to the high life by being timid. Some people mistake timidity for
humility. Humility is almost a God-like word. A sense of
awe, a sense of wonder, an awareness of the human soul and
spirit...an understanding that there is something unique about the
human drama versus the rest of life. Humility is a grasp of the
distance between us and the stars, yet having the feeling that we're
part of the stars. So humility is a virtue; but timidity is a disease.
Timidity is an affliction. It can be cured, but it is a problem.

5) Be proud but not arrogant. It takes pride to win the day. It takes
pride to build your ambition. It takes pride in community. It takes
pride in cause, in accomplishment. But the key to becoming a good
leader is being proud without being arrogant. In fact I believe the
worst kind of arrogance is arrogance from ignorance. It's when you
don't know that you don't know. That kind of arrogance is intolerable.
If someone is smart and arrogant, we can tolerate that. But if
someone is ignorant and arrogant, that's just too much to take.

6) Develop humor without folly. That's important for a leader. In
leadership, we learn that it's okay to be witty, but not silly.

Friday, August 28, 2009

Teknik Bertengkar Secara Positif - Khas Buat Suami Tercinta




Rasulullah bersabda, "Sesiapa meninggalkan perdebatan, sedang dia berada di pihak yang benar, dibina untuknya sebuah rumah di tengah-tengah syurga."

(Riwayat Anas Bin Malik)

Tidak indahkah dijanjikan dengan sebuah rumah di tengah-tengah syurga? Sekalipun kita di pihak yang benar, namun untuk mengelakkan perbalahan berpanjangan, mengalah sahajalah. Rugikah kalau beralah? Bagi sesetengah orang yang mementingkan diri sendiri mungkin tidak munasabah jika mahu beralah tetapi apa kata kalau saya katakan ‘orang yang beralah akan menang besar kemudiannya?’

Pergaduhan suami isteri akan sentiasa berlaku. Bak lagu P.Ramlee ‘Sedang lidah lagi tergigit’. Anda tidak akan sentiasa boleh berkata ‘ok’ kepada isteri anda begitu juga dia. Setiap kali pergaduhan berlaku, pasti akan ada hati yang akan terluka terutamanya hati orang perempuan yang memang diketahui tidak dapat diramalkan.

Jika pergaduhan itu berpunca daripada sesuatu yang sangat kecil, maka jika kita perbesarkan, maka akan terlihatlah peribadi sebenar seseorang itu. Sungguh akan terlihat betapa hodoh sekali seseorang itu tambahan pula, mulutnya mudah sekali melancangkan kata-kata yang tidak sedap didengar.

Sabda Rasulullah s.a.w:

"Orang mukmin bukan seorang pencela, bukan seorang pengutuk, bukan seorang yang keji dan bukan seorang yang berkata kotor."

(Riwayat Ibnu Mas’ud RA)

Dalam sabda ini, dapatlah kita fahami bahawa orang yang berkata keji bukanlah orang mukmin sebenar. Betapa iman kita dapat disukat dengan perlakuan yang sangat keji ini.

Pernahkah anda melihat pergaduhan suami isteri ini daripada sudut yang positif? Sebenarnya, pergaduhan akan menyebabkan terbentuknya satu penyatuan pelbagai perkara termasuklah cita rasa dan impian pasangan itu. Bagi mencapai tujuan inilah kita sering bertelingkah dengan pasangan untuk mencapai sesuatu yang terbaik. Tidaklah saya maksudkan pergaduhan adalah baik, namun hal ini adalah lebih baik daripada kita berdiam dan tidak berbincang sehingga akhirnya tidak ada penyatuan antara suami dan isteri.

Justeru, pergaduhan menjadi medium kepada pasangan dalam menyatukan kasih sayang. Setiap individu akan melahirkan perasaan tidak puas hati dan sebagainya. Maka, di sini adalah tempat untuk mencurahkan perasaan. Jadi, janganlah memendam perasaan sehingga jiwa kita menjadi tertekan ibarat belon yang akan pecah akibat ditiup dengan angin yang kuat. Jika tidak diluahkan, pasangan anda tidak mungkin akan tahu perkara yang ada dalam hati anda.

Di sini, saya akan kongsikan beberapa tip untuk bertengkar secara positif:

1. Jangan terlampau banyak bercakap – Ketika bertengkar, hati masing-masing pasti dalam keadaan marah. Ketika marah, pasti perkara yang logik sekalipun tidak diterima melainkan masing-masing mahu menegakkan pendapat masing-masing. Jika anda sebagai suami mempunyai hak untuk bercakap sekalipun, kurangkan daripada terlalu menegakkan pendapat anda sendiri. Hal ini akan mencetuskan perasaan tidak puas hati kepada pasangan anda sehingga perlahan-lahan dia akan menjadi bosan dengan anda. Yang perlu anda lakukan adalah dengan memikirkan secara mendalam cara untuk mem-betulkan keadaan.

2. Jangan menyebut kelemahan pasangan – Bukan hanya isteri anda yang mempunyai kelemahan, anda juga ada ke-lemahan sendiri. Jadi, dengan mengungkit kelemahan dia, anda akan turut merangsang pasangan mengungkit kelemahan anda. Lagi pula, anda tidak akan menang dengan hanya mengungkit sebegini tetapi menyebabkan keadaan lebih parah. Jika mahu menegur pasangan, minta dia meluahkan ketidak-puasan hatinya tentang anda dahulu supaya apabila giliran anda nanti, dia tidak akan meninggikan suara.

3. Jangan membalas perbuatannya – Sebagai contoh, pasangan anda bermesra-mesra dengan lelaki sebelah rumah. Anda mahu membuatkan dia sedar bahawa perbuatannya salah. Jangan anda pula bermesra-mesra dengan perempuan lain di hadapan dia. Keadaan ini hanya memberi peluang yang lebih kepada isteri anda untuk menjauhi anda. Akhirnya, anda turut terlibat dalam menjarakkan perhubungan anda sendiri.

4. Jangan cuba mengubah pasangan – Anda dibesarkan dalam keluarga ‘begini’, isteri anda dibesarkan dalam keluarga ‘begitu’. Pastilah terdapat perbezaan antara kedua-duanya. Anda harus memahami bahawa cara dia melihat sesuatu pasti tidak sama dengan pandangan anda.

5. Fokus pada masalah – Jangan meleret-leret sehingga perkara yang bukan masalah akhirnya akan turut menjadi masalah.

6. Jangan tinggikan suara – Semakin tinggi suara kita ketika bergaduh, semakin tinggilah suara pasangan kita nanti. Pergaduhan seperti ini tidak akan menjadikan keadaan semakin baik malah semakin kusut. Cubalah bercakap dengan tenang sehingga isteri anda yang sedang marah akan turut tenang dan seterusnya dapat menyelesaikan masalah dengan lebih cepat.

7. Gunakan panggilan manja – Ada pasangan yang pada masa biasa menggunakan panggilan ‘sayang’ atau ‘manja’ tetapi ketika bergaduh, keadaan akan beralih sebaliknya. Panggilan kasar mengambil alih menyebabkan pasangan anda merasakan dirinya rendah sekali. Jangan emosi sehingga tergamak menggunakan panggilan kasar termasuklah ‘aku’ dan ‘kau’.

8. Elakkan terlalu emosional – Ketika sesi bergaduh ini, pasti pasangan anda akan selalu terlepas mulut. Jadi, jangan ambil perkara yang dikatakannya terlalu serius memandangkan ketika sedang bergaduh, seseorang itu cenderung berkata yang tidak-tidak terhadap lawannya.

9. Gunakan perkataan yang baik-baik – Selain menggunakan panggilan manja, gunakanlah juga perkataan yang tidak menyalahkan. Perkara ini akan menyebabkan masalah akan cepat selesai. Antara contoh perkataan yang boleh anda gunakan ialah, "Abang rasa sayang tak patut buat macam ni," berbanding "Ni semua salah engkaulah!"

10. Jangan bertengkar di depan makanan atau di tempat tidur – Hal ini kerana tempat tersebut sepatutnya tempat kita menjamu selera dan bermesra-mesra sesama sendiri.

11. Dengar luahan isteri – Mungkin sahaja perkara yang disampaikan oleh isteri anda itu dapat menyelesaikan masalah. Jika anda hilang tumpuan ketika ini, bukan sahaja anda akan kehilangan idea yang baik malah anda menggunakan cara sendiri yang belum tentu dapat menyelesaikan masalah anda berdua.

12. Jangan bergaduh di depan anak – Dengan bergaduh di hadapan anak, anda hanya akan membuatkan anak keliru dan mengadili sama ada ibu atau bapa mereka yang berada di pihak benar atau salah. Perkara yang lebih menakutkan akan berlaku jika anak anda menceritakan keadaan anda berdua kepada orang luar. Hal ini akan menjejaskan imej anda sekeluarga.

13. Bersabar – Sekalipun anda lelaki dan anda lebih kuat secara fizikal berbanding dengan isteri anda, jangan sekali-kali anda cuba untuk mengasari isteri anda. Dibimbangi dia juga akan belajar untuk melawan dan membaling segala jenis pinggan mangkuk ketika bergaduh pada masa lain.

14. Say NO to third party – Selagi terdaya menyelesaikan masalah anda sendiri, jangan libatkan orang lain. Campur tangan pihak ketiga kebanyakannya hanya menyulitkan keadaan. Sekiranya perlu, pilihlah orang yang adil untuk menyelesaikan masalah anda.

15. Mengalah tidak bererti kalah – Mengalah ketika saat genting ini tidak menunjukkan anda kalah. Anda hanya perlukan masa untuk membuktikan bahawa tindakan anda sebenarnya betul.

16. Jangan keluar dari rumah sebelum selesai – Selalu menonton drama di TV? Kebanyakannya menunjukkan suami akan segera meninggalkan rumah semasa bergaduh untuk memudahkan cerita. Tindakan ini sebenarnya akan menyebab-kan isteri anda ditinggalkan dalam keadaan keliru. Hal ini menyebabkan dia akan berasa tertekan dan anda perlu ingat bahawa anak-anak akan ditinggalkan bersamanya di rumah. Perempuan yang hilang kewarasan akibat tekanan yang dahsyat akan menyebabkan mereka akan bertindak yang bukan-bukan. Mungkin sahaja dia akan memudaratkan dirinya atau anak-anak anda boleh menjadi mangsa keadaan. Sekiranya anda rasa tidak dapat menahan marah, beritahu isteri anda bahawa anda perlukan sedikit ketenangan dan hal ini lebih menampakkan rasa tanggungjawab anda terhadap permasalahan anda berdua.

17. Luahkan – Selain menjadi pendengar kepada permasalahan isteri, anda turut perlu meluahkan perasaan anda. Tunggu sehingga dia habis berbicara sebelum anda menyambung pendapat anda. Sekiranya anda tidak memberitahu keadaan sebenar anda, belum tentu dia dapat memahami keadaan anda.

18. Pelukan dan kemaafan – Hal inilah detik paling indah dalam pergaduhan. Setelah dirasakan masalah telah selesai, jangan melewatkan detik untuk memeluk pasangan anda seeratnya. Ucapkan perkataan maaf dan berharap agar perkara seperti itu tidak akan berlaku lagi. Keadaan ini akan menyebabkan perhubungan anda selepas itu lebih erat dan mantap dengan satu kesatuan hati yang lebih hebat.

Artikel di atas dipetik daripada Bab 9: Sedangkan Lidah Lagi Tergigit dalam buku Manual Kerja Super Suami. Maklumat lanjut berkenaan buku ini boleh didapati di www.books.perintis.com.my.

Tuesday, August 25, 2009

Arwah Ibu Melawat Mayat Anak....

Kisah ini diceritakan oleh seorang ustaz yang bertugas memandikan mayat orang Islam di hospital. Lebih kurang jam 3.30 pagi, saya menerima panggilan dari Hospital Tengku Ampuan Rahimah, Klang, Selangor untuk menguruskan jenazah lelaki yang sudah seminggu tidak dituntut. Di luar bilik mayat itu cukup dingin dan gelap serta sunyi dan hening.

Hanya saya dan seorang penjaga bilik tersebut yang berada dalam bilik berkenaan. Saya membuka dengan hati-hati penutup muka jenazah. Kulitnya putih,badannya kecil dan berusia awal 20-an. Allah Maha Berkuasa.


Tiba-tiba saya lihat muka jenazah itu sedikit demi sedikit bertukar menjadi hitam. Mulanya saya tidak menganggap ia sebagai aneh, namun apabila semakin lama semakin hitam, hati saya mula bertanya-tanya. Saya terus menatap perubahan itu dengan teliti, sambil di hati tidak berhenti-henti membaca ayat-ayat suci Al-Quran. Detik demi detik berlalu,wajah jenazah semakin hitam.

Selepas lima minit berlalu,barulah ia berhenti bertukar warna. Ketika itu wajah mayat berkenaan tidak lagi putih seperti warna asalnya,tetapi hitam seperti terbakar. Saya keluar dari bilik berkenaan dan duduk termenung memikirkan kejadian aneh yang berlaku itu. Pelbagai pertanyaan timbul di kepala saya; apakah yang sebenarnya telah terjadi? Siapakah pemuda itu? Mengapa wajahnya bertukar hitam? Persoalan demi persoalan muncul di fikiran saya.

Sedang saya termenung tiba-tiba saya dapati ada seorang wanita berjalan menuju ke arah saya. Satu lagi pertanyaan timbul, siapa pula wanita ini yang berjalan seorang diri di bilik mayat pada pukul 4.00 Semakin lama dia semakin hampir, dan tidak lama kemudian berdiri di hadapan saya. Dia berusia 60-an dan memakai baju kurung. Ustaz," kata wanita itu. "Saya dengar anak saya meninggal dunia dan sudah seminggu mayatnya tidak dituntut. Jadi saya nak tengok jenazahnya." kata wanita berkenaan dengan lembut.

Walaupun hati saya ada sedikit tanda tanya,namun saya membawa juga wanita itu ke tempat jenazah tersebut. Saya tarik laci 313 dan buka kain penutup wajahnya. "Betulkah ini mayat anak mak cik?"tanya saya. "Mak cik rasa betul... tapi kulitnya putih." "Makcik lihatlah betul-betul. " kata saya. Selepas ditelitinya jenazah berkenaan, wanita itu begitu yakin yang mayat itu adalah anaknya. Saya tutup kembali kain penutup mayat dan menolak kembali lacinya ke dalam dan membawa wanita itu keluar dari bilik mayat.

Tiba di luar saya bertanya kepadanya. "Mak cik, ceritakanlah kepada saya apa sebenarnya yang berlaku sampai wajah anak mak cik bertukar jadi hitam?" tanya saya. Wanita itu tidak mahu menjawab sebaliknya menangis teresak-esak. Saya ulangi pertanyaan tetapi ia masih enggan menjawab. Dia seperti menyembunyikan sesuatu."Baiklah, kalau mak cik tidak mahu beritahu,saya tak mahu uruskan jenazah anak mak cik ini. " kata saya untuk menggertaknya. Bila saya berkata demikian, barulah wanita itu membuka mulutnya. Sambil mengesat airmata, dia berkata, "Ustaz, anak saya ni memang baik, patuh dan taat kepada saya. Jika dikejutkan di waktu malam atau pagi supaya buat sesuatu kerja, dia akan bangun dan buat kerja itu tanpa membantah sepatahpun. Dia memang anak yang baik. Tapi..." tambah wanita itu lagi "apabila makcik kejutkan dia untuk bangun sembahyang, Subuh misalnya, dia mengamuk marahkan mak cik. Kejutlah dia, suruhlah dia pergi ke kedai, dalam hujan lebat pun dia akan pergi, tapi kalau dikejutkan supaya bangun sembahyang,anak makcik ini akan terus naik angin. Itulah yang mak cik kesalkan." kata wanita tersebut. Jawapannya itu memeranjatkan saya.

Teringat saya kepada hadis nabi bahawa barang siapa yang tidak sembahyang, maka akan ditarik cahaya iman dari wajahnya. Mungkin itulah yang berlaku. Wajah pemuda itu bukan sahaja ditarik cahaya keimanannya, malah diaibkan dengan warna yang hitam.Selepas menceritakan perangai anaknya, wanita tersebut meminta diri untuk pulang.Dia berjalan dengan pantas dan hilang dalam persekitaran yang gelap.Kemudian saya pun memandikan, mengapankan dan menyembahyangkannya .

Selesai urusan itu, saya kembali ke rumah semula. Saya perlu balik secepat mungkin kerana perlu bertugas keesokan harinya sebagai imam di Masjid Sultan Sallehuddin Abdul Aziz Shah, Shah Alam. Selang dua tiga hari kemudian, entah kenapa hati saya begitu tergerak untuk menghubungi waris mayat pemuda tersebut. Melalui nombor telefon yang diberikan oleh Hospital Tengku Ampuan Rahimah, saya hubungi saudara Allahyarham yang agak jauh pertalian persaudaraannya. Selepas memperkenalkan diri, saya berkata, "Encik, kenapa encik biarkan orang tua itu datang ke hospital seorang diri di pagi-pagi hari. Rasanya lebih elok kalau encik dan keluarga encik yang datang sebab encik tinggal di Kuala Lumpur lebih dekat dengan Klang."


Pertanyaan saya itu menyebabkan dia terkejut, "Orang tua mana pula?" katanya. Saya ceritakan tentang wanita berkenaan, tentang bentuk badannya, wajahnya,tuturannya serta pakaiannya. "Kalau wanita itu yang ustaz katakan, perempuan itu adalah emaknya, tapi.... emaknya dah meninggal lima tahun lalu!" Saya terpaku, tidak tahu apa yang hendak dikatakan lagi. Jadi 'apakah' yang datang menemui saya pagi itu?Walau siapa pun wanita itu dalam erti kata sebenarnya, saya yakin ia adalah 'sesuatu' yang Allah turunkan untuk memberitahu kita apa yang sebenarnya telah berlaku hingga menyebabkan wajah pemuda berkenaan bertukar hitam. Peristiwa tersebut telah terjadi lebih setahun lalu, tapi masih segar dalam ingatan saya.


Ia mengingatkan saya kepada sebuah hadis nabi, yang bermaksud bahawa jika seseorang itu meninggalkan sembahyang satu waktu dengan sengaja,dia akan ditempatkan di neraka selama 80,000 tahun. Bayangkanlah seksaan yang akan dilalui kerana satu hari di akhirat bersamaan dengan seribu tahun di dunia. Kalau 80,000 tahun?
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Lemahnya diri ini
Baru sikit Allah menguji
Sudah rebah tak mampu berdiri

Lemahnya diri ini
Baru saja bayu dunia menyapa pipi
Sudah melayang tak sedarkan diri

Lemahnya diri ini
Baru sekelumit keindahan wajah diberi
Sudah mula lupa diri

Lemahnya diri ini
Baru sikit kejayaan diberi
Sudah lupa siapa yang beri

Lemahnya diri ini
Baru sikit buat kebaikan
Riak dan ujub bersorak riang

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Bila suatu kebajikan dimulakan
Tak berdaya nak teruskan
Tiada istiqamah dalam amalan

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Baru diuji dengan seorang lelaki/wanita
Iman sudah bisu menyepi
Nafsu pula mengawal diri

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Jalan dakwah kata nak tempuhi
Baru saja melangkah kaki
Beberapa tapak sudah berhenti

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Nikmat anugerah Ilahi
Biar sudah tak terhitung lagi
Tapi masih lupa mensyukuri

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Asyik lagha dengan urusan duniawi
Tak pernah khuatir amalan diterima
Atau dipaling

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Bagaimana nak sahut seruan jihad?
Baru sikit dilukai
Sudah menangis meratapi

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Lupa matlamat lupa syari'at
Terkejar-kejar yang tak pasti
Leka dibuai syaitan terlaknat

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Asyik ketawa tak kering gusi
Lupa menangis mengingat MATI…

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Wednesday, August 19, 2009

Quran Chapters : How to know the Page Numbers

Quran Chapters : How to know the Page Numbers
Would like to share with you a formula for memorizing the Qur'an pages (On a standard size Qur'an - Madina Al Munawwarah).

Pay attention carefully; its very easy:-

Qur'an has 30 Juzuus (parts)


Example 1
If you want to know the 5th Juzuu of the Quran is on which page?
Take 5 (the fifth juzuu) 5-1 = 4, the answer 4 x 2 = 8 then insert 2 after 8 which shows 82
Now look at the Quraan and you will see The 5th Juzuu begins on page 82.


Example 2

10th Juzuu 10-1 = 9, the answer 9 x 2 = 18 then insert 2 after 18
which shows 182
Now look at the Quraan, you will see the 10th Juzuu begins on page 182.

Example 3

Juzuu 23, 23-1 = 22, the answer 22 x 2 = 44 then insert 2 after 44
which shows 442
Now look at the Quraan, you will see the 23rd Juzuu begins on page 442.
Moreover, the Juzuu starts from the top of the pages & ends on the bottom of the pages

Subhana Allah!
Share with others and teach your children how to do it.
This way they will always rememember which Juzuu starts on which page.

You know you work in Corporate if ...

You know you work in Corporate if ...

1) You've sat at the same desk for 4 years and worked for three different companies.
2) Your resume is on a disk in your pocket.
3) When someone asks about what you do for a living, you lie.
4) You get really excited about a 2% pay raise.
5) You learn about your layoff on CNN.
6) Your biggest loss from a system crash is that you lose your best jokes.
7) Your supervisor doesn't have the ability to do your job.
8) You sit in a cubicle smaller than your bedroom closet.
9) Salaries of the members on the Executive Board are higher than all the Third World
countries' annual budgets combined.
10) It's dark when you drive to and from work.
11) Fun is when issues are assigned to someone else.
12) "Communication" is something your group is having problems with.
13) You see a good looking person and know it is a visitor.
14) Free food left over from meetings is your main staple diet.
15) Weekends are those days your spouse makes you stay home.
16) Being sick is defined as can't walk or you're in the hospital.
17) You're already late on the assignment you just got.
18) Dilbert cartoons hang outside every cube.
19) Your boss' favorite lines are "When you get a few minutes", "In your spare time",
"When you're freed up", and "I have an opportunity for you."
20) Your relatives and family describe your job as "works with computers".

Rahsia Solat




Inilah dia rahsia as-solat, sebagai peringatan bagi yang dah tahu atau panduan bagi yang baru tahu.......

1 - Niat Sembahyang :
Sebenarnya memeliharakan taubat kita dari dunia dan akhirat.


2 -
Berdiri Betul :
Fadilatnya, ketika mati dapat meluaskan tempat
kita di dalam kubur.

3 -
Takbir-ratul Ihram :
Fadilatnya, sebagai pelita yang menerangi
kita di dalam kubur.

4 -
Fatihah :
Sebagai pakaian yang indah-indah di dalam kubur.


5 -
Ruqu' :
Sebagai tikar kita di dalam kubur.


6 - I'tidal
:
Akan memberi minuman air dari telaga al-kautsar ketika didalam kubur.


7 -
Sujud :
Memagar kita ketika menyeberangi titian SIR ATUL -MUSTAQIM.


8 -
Duduk antara 2 Sujud :
Akan menaung panji-panji nabi kita
didalam kubur

9 -
Duduk antara 2 Sujud (akhir) :
Menjadi kenderaan ketika kita dipadang Mahsyar.


1
0 - Tahhiyat Akhir :
Sebagai penjawab bagi soalan yang dikemukakan
oleh Munkar & Nankir di dalam kubur.

11 -
Selawat Nabi :
Sebagai pendinding api neraka di dalam kubur.


12 -
Salam :
Memelihara kita di dalam kubur.


13 -
Tertib :
Akan pertemuan kita dengan Allah S. W. T.


Dari Abdullah bin 'Amr R. A., Rasulullah S. A. W.bersabda :


"Senarai di atas adalah salah satu sebab mengapa orang Yahudi /
Kafir tidak sukakan angka 13 dan juga Hari Jumaat. Itulah sebab mengapa mereka mencipta cerita yang begitu seram sekali iaitu " FRIDAY the 13th " jika ada di kalangan kamu yang perasan!!!"


Was salam.

"Sampaikanlah pesanku biarpun satu ayat...." Sebaik-baik manusia itu adalah mereka yang memberi manafa'at kepada manusia lain...

Don't laugh

Japan invented a machine that catches thieves.

They took it out to different countries for a test.

U.S.A, in 30 minutes it caught 20 thieves;

UK, in 30 minutes it caught 500 thieves;

Spain, in 20 minutes it caught 25 thieves;

Ghana, in 10 minutes it caught 6,000 thieves;

Uganda, in 7 minutes it caught 20,000 thieves,



Nigeria, in 5 minutes the machine was stolen.

hehehhehehehhehe

A gentle reminder...

Jangan sengaja lewatkan solat.
Perbuatan ini Allah tidak suka. Kalau tertidur lain cerita.


Jangan
masuk ke bilik air tanpa memakai alas
kaki (selipar). Takut kalau-kalau terbawa keluar najis, mengotori seluruh rumah kita.


Jangan
makan dan minum dalam bekas yang pecah atau sumbing.
Makruh kerana ia membahayakan.


Jangan
biarkan pinggan mangkuk yang telah digunakan tidak berbasuh. Makruh dan mewarisi kepapaan.

Jangan
tidur selepas solat Subuh, nanti rezeki mahal (kerana berpagi-pagi itu membuka pintu berkat).

Jangan
makan tanpa membaca BISMILLAH dan doa makan. Nanti rezeki kita dikongsi syaitan.

Jangan
keluar rumah tanpa niat untuk membuat kebaikan. Takut-takut kita mati dalam perjalanan.

Jangan
pakai sepatu atau selipar yang berlainan pasangan. Makruh dan mewarisi kepapaan.

Jangan
biarkan mata liar di perjalanan. Nanti hati kita gelap diselaputi dosa.

Jangan
menangguh taubat bila berbuat dosa kerana mati boleh datang
bila-bila masa.


Jangan
ego untuk meminta maaf pada ibu bapa dan sesama manusia
kalau memang kita bersalah.


Jangan
mengumpat sesama rakan taulan. Nanti rosak persahabatan kita hilang bahagia.

Jangan
lupa bergantung kepada ALLAH dalam setiap kerja kita. Nanti kita sombong apabila berjaya. Kalau gagal kecewa pula.

Jangan
bakhil untuk bersedekah. Sedekah itu memanjangkan umur dan memurahkan rezeki kita.

Jangan
banyak ketawa. Nanti mati jiwa.

Jangan
biasakan berbohong, kerana ia adalah ciri-ciri munafik dan
menghilangkan kasih orang kepada kita.


Jangan
suka menganiaya manusia atau haiwan. Doa makhluk yang teraniaya cepat dimakbulkan ALLAH.

Jangan
terlalu susah hati dengan urusan dunia. Akhirat itu lebih utama
dan hidup di sana lebih lama dan kekal selamanya.



Jangan mempertikaikan kenapa ISLAM itu berkata
JANGAN.

Sebab semuanya untuk keselamatan kita.


ALLAH lebih tahu apa yang terbaik
untuk hamba ciptaanNya.


"Sebarkanlah ajaranku walau satu ayat pun"
(Sabda Rasulullah SAW)



"Nescaya Allah memperbaiki bagimu amalan-amalanmu dan mengampuni bagimu dosa-dosamu. Dan barangsiapa mentaati Allah dan Rasul-Nya, maka sesungguhnya ia telah mendapat kemenangan yang besar."

Friday, August 14, 2009

MINDBLOWING THOUGHT PROCESS!!!

MINDBLOWING THOUGHT PROCESS!!!

A young and pretty lady posted this on a popular forum:

Title: What should I do to marry a rich guy?

I'm going to be honest of what I'm going to say here. I'm 25 this year. I'm very pretty, have style and good taste. I wish to marry a guy with $500k annual salary or above. You might say that I'm greedy, but an annual salary of $1M is considered only as middle class in New York. My requirement is not high. Is there anyone in this forum who has an income of $500k annual salary? Are you all married? I wanted to ask: what should I do to marry rich persons like you? Among those I've dated, the richest is $250k annual income, and it seems that this is my upper limit. If someone is going to move into high cost residential area on the west of New York CityGarden(?), $250k annual income is not enough.

I'm here humbly to ask a few questions:
1) Where do most rich bachelors hang out? (Please list down the names and addresses of bars, restaurant, gym)
2) Which age group should I target?
3) Why most wives of the riches is only average-looking? I've met a few girls who doesn't have looks and are not interesting, but they are able to marry rich guys
4) How do you decide who can be your wife, and who can only be your girlfriend? (my target now is to get married)

Ms. Pretty


Awesome reply:

Dear Ms. Pretty,

I have read your post with great interest. Guess there are lots of girls out there who have similar questions like yours. Please allow me to analyse your situation as a professional investor. My annual income is more than $500k, which meets your requirement, so I hope everyone believes that I'm not wasting time here. From the standpoint of a business person, it is a bad decision to marry you. The answer is very simple, so let me explain. Put the details aside, what you're trying to do is an exchange of "beauty" and "money": Person A provides beauty, and Person B pays for it, fair and square. However, there's a deadly problem here, your beauty will fade, but my money will not be gone without any good reason. The fact is, my income might increase from year to year, but you can't be prettier year after year. Hence from the viewpoint of economics, I am an appreciation asset, and you are a depreciation asset. It's not just normal depreciation, but exponential depreciation. If that is your only asset, your value will be much worried 10 years later.

By the terms we use in Wall Street, every trading has a position, dating with you is also a "trading position". If the trade value dropped we will sell it and it is not a good idea to keep it for long term - same goes with the marriage that you wanted. It might be cruel to say this, but in order to make a wiser decision any assets with great depreciation value will be sold or "leased". Anyone with over $500k annual income is not a fool; we would only date you, but will not marry you. I would advice that you forget looking for any clues to marry a rich guy. And by the way, you could make yourself to become a rich person with $500k annual income. This has better chance than finding a rich fool.

Hope this reply helps. If you are interested in "leasing" services, do contact me...

signed,
J.P. Morgan

Thursday, July 23, 2009

'The Law of the Garbage Truck' (by David J. Pollay)

'The Law of the Garbage Truck' (by David J. Pollay)

How often do you let other people's nonsense change your mood?

Do you let a bad driver, rude waiter, curt boss, or an insensitive employee ruin your day?

Unless you're the Terminator, for an instant you're probably set back on your heels.

However, the mark of a successful person is how quickly he/she can get back her focus on what's important.

Sixteen years ago I learned this lesson. I learned it in the back of a New York City taxi cab. Here's what happened:

I hopped in a taxi, and we took off for Grand Central Station. We were driving in the right lane when, all of a sudden, a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his brakes, skidded, and missed the other car's back end by just inches!

The driver of the other car, the guy who almost caused a big accident, whipped his head around and he started yelling bad words at us. My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean, he was friendly. So, I said, 'Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined your car and send us to the hospital!'

And this is when my taxi driver told me what I now call, 'The Law of the Garbage Truck'

Most people are like garbage trucks.

They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment.

As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it. And if you let them, they'll dump it on you.

When someone wants to dump on you, don't take it personally.

You just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. You'll be happy you did.

So this was it: The 'Law of the Garbage Truck.'

I started thinking, how often do I let Garbage Trucks run right over me?

And how often do I take their garbage and spread it to other people: at work, at home, on the streets?

It was that day I said, 'I'm not going to do it anymore.' I began to see garbage trucks. I see the load they're carrying. I see them coming to drop it off. And like my Taxi Driver, I don't make it a personal thing; I just smile, wave, wish them well, and I move on.

One of my favorite football players of all time, Walter Payton, did this every day on the football field. He would jump up as quickly as he hit the ground after being tackled. He never dwelled on a hit. Payton was ready to make the next play his best.

Good leaders know they have to be ready for their next meeting. Good parents know that they have to welcome their children home from school with hugs and kisses. Teachers and parents know that they have to be fully present, and at their best for the people they care about.

The bottom line is that successful people do not let Garbage Trucks take over their day.

What about you?
What would happen in your life, starting today, if you let more garbage trucks pass you by?

Love the people who treat you right.
Forget about the ones who don't.
Believe that everything happens for a reason.
If you get a chance, TAKE IT!
If it changes your life, LET IT!
Nobody said it would be easy...


They just promised it would be worth it!

LIVE well...LAUGH often...LOVE much :-)

Thursday, June 25, 2009

Enhancing Critical Skills for Effective Leaders




Interesting course, met some new friends. Had a good time at VISTANA. Wish i could learn more on leadership.

KEMBARA_A Visit to UPM and UKM





Pengetua and Felo went for an educational visit to UKM and UPM. What great hospitality! I am not so sure whether UMp can repay all the kindness that we have received. Yet, we will try our best to give the warmest welcome whenever they come to UMP. Wonderful people! Tq from the deep of our hearts!!!!

Felo at Istana Budaya_Teater Mana Setangginya



My Husband and I invited our Felo mates especially the ladies to join and watch the famous theater MANA SETANGGINYA. Personally, I could not understand the whole story until my husband told me the connection of the story to our real world. Tq abg for explaining to me...I had a blast night...watching all the big sets...the flying angels....the fire explosion...wow...

Gunungan At Acheh




People in Acheh told us one beautiful story. It is about love which is equivalent to Taj Mahal. The Sultan of Acheh got married to a Princess from Pahang (suprise huh!). Yes, it is true. We are somehow related to Acheh. However, The Princess missed Pahang so much so she asked her husband to build a small garden made from stone (white stone?) which resembles all the mountains in Pahang. The Princess would go there and play with her servants. She would wash her hair and get it dry up on top of the garden. We went through a small tunnel and reached on top of the stone mountains. This garden is called `GUNUNGAN'. Such a small monument of love yet very unique. It shows how love can be intrepreted in many ways. So dear hubby, would you build a castle for me? Made from `DAUN PISANG'? Please.....

Tuesday, June 16, 2009

"Can't We Talk?" (Condensed from: You Just Don't Understand) by Deborah Tannen

A married couple was in a car when the wife turned to her husband and asked, "Would you like to stop for a coffee?"

"No, thanks," he answered truthfully. So they didn't stop.

The result? The wife, who had indeed wanted to stop, became annoyed because she felt her preference had not been considered. The husband, seeing his wife was angry, became frustrated. Why didn't she just say what she wanted?

Unfortunately, he failed to see that his wife was asking the question not to get an instant decision, but to begin a negotiation. And the woman didn't realize that when her husband said no, he was just expressing his preference, not making a ruling. When a man and woman interpret the same interchange in such conflicting ways, it's no wonder they can find themselves leveling angry charges of selfishness and obstinacy at each other.

As a specialist in linguistics, I have studied how the conversational styles of men and women differ. We cannot lump all men or all women into fixed categories. But the seemingly senseless misunderstandings that haunt our relationships can in part be explained by the different conversational rules by which men and women play.

Whenever I write or speak about this subject, people tell me they are relieved to learn that what has caused them trouble - and what they had previously ascribed to personal failings - is, in fact, very common.

Learning about the different though equally valid conversational frequencies men and women are tuned to can help banish the blame and help us truly talk to one another. Here are some of the most common areas of conflict:

Status vs. Support.

Men grow up in a world in which a conversation is often a contest, either to achieve the upper hand or to prevent other people from pushing them around. For women, however, talking is often a way to exchange confirmation and support.

I saw this when my husband and I had jobs in different cities. People frequently made comments like, "That must be rough," and "How do you stand it?" I accepted their sympathy and sometimes even reinforced it, saying, "The worst part is having to pack and unpack al the time."

But my husband often reacted with irritation. Our situation had advantages, he would explain. As academics, we had four-day weekends together, as well as long vacations throughout the year and four months in the summer.

Everything he said was true, but I didn't understand why he chose to say it. He told me that some of the comments implied: "Yours is not a real marriage. I am superior to you because my wife and I have avoided your misfortune." Until then it had not occurred to me there might be an element of one- upmanship.

I now see that my husband was simply approaching the world as many men do: as a place where people try to achieve and maintain status. I, on the other hand, was approaching the world as many women do: as a network of connections seeking support and consensus.

Independence vs. Intimacy.

Since women often think in terms of closeness and support, they struggle to preserve intimacy. Men, concerned with status, tend to focus more on independence. These traits can lead women and men to starkly different views of the same situation.

When Josh's old high-school friend called him at work to say he'd be in town, Josh invited him to stay for the weekend. That evening he told Linda they were having a house guest.

Linda was upset. How could Josh make these plans without discussing them with her beforehand? She would never do that to him. "Why don't you tell your friend you have to check with your wife?" she asked.

Josh replied, "I can't tell my friend, 'I have to ask my wife for permission'!"

To Josh, checking with his wife would mean he was not free to act on his own. It would make him feel like a child or an underling. But Linda actually enjoys telling someone, "I have to check with Josh." It makes her feel good to show that her life is intertwined with her husband's.

Advice vs. Understanding.

Eve had a benign lump removed from her breast. When she confided to her husband, Mark, that she was distressed because the stitches changed the contour of her breast, he answered, "You can always have plastic surgery."

This comment bothered her. "I'm sorry you don't like the way it looks," she protested. "But I'm not having any more surgery!"

Mark was hurt and puzzled. "I don't care about a scar," he replied. "It doesn't bother me at all."

"Then why are you telling me to have plastic surgery?" she asked.

"Because you were upset about the way it looks."

Eve felt like a heel. Mark had been wonderfully supportive throughout her surgery. How could she snap at him now?

The problem stemmed from a difference in approach. To many men a complaint is a challenge to come up with a solution. Mark thought he was reassuring Eve by telling her there was something she could do about her scar. But often women are looking for emotional support, not solutions.

When my mother tells my father she doesn't feel well, he invariably offers to take her to the doctor. Invariably, she is disappointed with his reaction. Like many men, he is focused on what he can do, whereas she wants sympathy.

Information vs. Feelings.

A cartoon shows a husband opening a newspaper and asking his wife, "Is there anything you'd like to say to me before I start reading the paper?" We know there isn't - but that as soon as the man begins reading, his wife will think of something.

The cartoon is funny because people recognize their own experience in it. What's not funny is that many women are hurt when men don't talk to them at home, and many men are frustrated when they disappoint their partners without knowing why.

Rebecca, who is happily married, told me this is a source of dissatisfaction with her husband, Stuart. When she tells him what she is thinking, he listens silently. When she asks him what is on his mind, he says, "Nothing."

All Rebecca's life she has had practice in verbalizing her feelings with friends and relatives. But Stuart has had practice in keeping his innermost thoughts to himself. To him, like most men, talk is information. He doesn't feel that talk is required at home.

Yet many such men hold center stage in a social setting, telling jokes and stories. They use conversation to claim attention and to entertain. Women can wind up hurt that their husbands tell relative strangers things they have not told them.

To avoid this kind of misunderstanding, both men and women can make adjustments. A woman may observe a man's desire to read the paper without seeing it is a rejection. And a man can understand a woman's desire to talk without feeling it is a manipulative intrusion.

Orders vs. Proposals.

Diana often begins statements with "Let's." She might say "Let's park over there" or "Let's clean up now, before lunch."

This makes Nathan angry. He has deciphered Diana's "Let's" as a command. Like most men, he resists being told what to do. But to Diana, she is making suggestions, not demands. Like most women, she formulates her requests as proposals rather than orders. Her style of talking is a way of getting others to do what she wants - but by winning agreement first.

With certain men, like Nathan, this tactic backfires. If they perceive someone is trying to get them to do something indirectly, they feel manipulated and respond more resentfully than they would to a straightforward request.

Conflict vs. Compromise.

In trying to prevent fights, some women refuse to oppose the will of others openly. But sometimes it's far more effective for a woman to assert herself, even at the risk of conflict.

Dora was frustrated by a series of used cars she drove. It was she who commuted to work, but her husband, Hank, who chose the cars. Hank always went for cars that were "interesting" but in continual need of repair.

After Dora was nearly killed when her brakes failed, they were in the market for yet another used car. Dora wanted to buy a late-model sedan from a friend. Hank fixed his sights on a 15-year-old sports car. She tried to persuade Hank that it made more sense to buy the boring but dependable car, but he would not be swayed.

Previously she would have acceded to his wishes. This time Dora bought the boring but dependable car and steeled herself for Hanks' anger. To her amazement, he spoke not a word of remonstrance. When she later told him what she had expected, he scoffed at her fears and said she should have done what she wanted from the start if she felt that strongly about it.

As Dora discovered, a little conflict won't kill you. At the same time, men who habitually oppose others can adjust their style to opt for less confrontation.

When we don't see style differences for what they are, we sometimes draw unfair conclusions: "You're illogical," "You're self- centered," "You don't care about me." But once we grasp the two characteristic approaches, we stand a better chance of preventing disagreements from spiraling out of control.

Learning the other's ways of talking is a leap across the communication gap between men and women, and a giant step towards genuine understanding.